121 Compliments That Go Deeper Than Appearance

So many of our most common compliments are focused on external appearances. How about we go a little deeper with the 100 insanely meaningful compliments that are not about appearance?

If we’re honest, we all focus on our physical appearance to some extent. This may be largely due to the insane amount of importance society places on our outward appearance. Because of that, so many of our go-to compliments revolve around looks.

This is not to say that compliments about appearance are bad or that you need to stop giving them. In fact, they are almost always well-intended.

But when we dive a bit deeper, we begin to understand how appearance-based compliments may not be the best way to show someone love.

Is physical appearance really that important?

When you give someone a compliment about how they look, you are most likely genuinely being kind. After all, a simple “hey, you look really beautiful” is a really nice thing to hear.

But if that’s all our compliments are, we run into a problem.

There are so many compliments that are not about appearance that may be more meaningful, both to give and receive.

Physical compliments are nice, but, as a whole, it can be nice to shift away from the pressure we put on looks.

External pressures in society (such as TV, movies, magazines, social media, etc.) can cause us to worry an extreme amount about our appearances already. Valuing appearance too much can do some significant harm to our overall well-being.

On the other hand, compliments that are not about appearance do the opposite work.

When we compliment someone for the person they are, we take physical appearance out of the equation entirely.

We are simply saying that we value them for their personality, heart, and character.

To me, that is a way more meaningful compliment to receive.

After all, you likely don’t pick deep friendships and relationships based solely on external appearances.

Chances are good that there are many character traits that you love about those close to you that have nothing to do with how they look. Compliment those!

Telling someone why you love them for the person they are can be such a pure, genuine, and heartfelt expression of love.

Utilizing these 121 compliments that are not about physical appearance can be a helpful guide to help you make this compliment switch.

121 Compliments Not About Physical Appearance

Personality Compliments

1. You make me laugh.
2. You make this world a happier place.
3. I love your laugh.
4. You are such a positive person.
5. I really admire how hardworking you are.
6. You always know the best ways to cheer me up.
7. You care so deeply for people. I think that’s really beautiful.
8. You are crazy smart!
9. My dog loves you so much. (The ultimate compliment – lol!)
10. You are such a people person. Everyone seems to love being around you!
11. You have great energy.
12. It seems like you are really passionate. I love that.
13. You are really creative.
14. Your laughter is contagious!
15. You smell nice. (I love this compliment… but make sure it’s not creepy. LOL!)
16. I wish more people were like you.
17. You’re so genuine.
18. You’re making a positive difference in this world.
19. I love your outlook on life.
20. I really enjoy hearing your opinions.
21. You are so generous.
22. I love how lighthearted our conversations can be.
23. You matter.
24. You can really make anyone feel special.
25. You’re so open-minded.
26. You have such a big heart.
27. I smile when I think of you!
28. You’re so authentic!
29. You are so wise.
30. Your kindness is remarkable.
31. Has anyone ever told you how special you are?
32. You are so kind.
33. I have so much respect for you.
34. I’m happy you exist.
35. My favorite thing about you is… (personality trait here)
36. You’re radiant!
37. Your smile feels contagious.
38. Your energy fills a room with positivity.
39. You feel like sunshine.
40. I think your personality is beautiful.

Compliments About Performance/Actions

41. You have the best taste in… (music, fashion, food, etc.)
42. You’re really good at…
43. I noticed you did _. It turned out amazing!
44. You are great at your job.
45. _ is better because of you! (Place of work, school, etc.)
46. You’re great at holding a conversation!
47. You’re so talented.
48. Not many people I know can do that – but you sure can!
49. You’re really good at setting boundaries. I think that’s beautiful.
50. You have overcome a lot. I think you’re really strong for…
51. I love how much you care about…
52. You are so organized! I admire that!
53. You should aux. Your music taste is the best!
54. Your drive is inspiring! I love watching how you … and never give up!
55. You are great at communicating.
56. I’m proud of you.
57. I noticed that you did… I think that’s really amazing.
58. It’s so cool that you know how to…
59. Being able to… is so rare! You’re so talented!
60. You got skills!
61. You deserve a gold medal in…
62. Your passion really shows in your work.
63. You can really do anything you set your mind to.
64. You’re so good at learning new things.
65. You are really well-rounded.
66. I wish more people were this detailed in their work!
67. You have a gift for…
68. You’ve made a ton of progress in…
69. You always produce high-quality work!
70. I’m proud of how much you’ve grown.
71. You’re really knowledgeable about that. Can you teach me more?
72. I love how intellectually stimulating our conversations are.
73. You’re an incredible leader.
74. Thanks for being such a great listener!
75. You are great at explaining things.
76. Your work ethic is inspiring.
77. I’m inspired by how you can…
78. You did that by yourself? Holy cow! You rock!
79. You tell the best jokes.
80. Your boss/coworkers/employees are lucky to have you.

Relationship Compliments

81. I feel safe around you.
82. You bring me comfort.
83. You add so much value to my life.
84. I love how much you make me laugh.
85. My life is better since knowing you.
86. You are the best friend.
87. I love how deeply you care for me.
88. Thank you for accepting me.
89. We are such a great pair.
90. You make me feel better about my life.
91. I trust you.
92. You are so fun to hang out with.
93. You make me feel less alone.
94. I am better for knowing you.
95. You mean a lot to me.
96. I can’t imagine life without you.
97. Whenever I have a bad day, you make me feel better.
98. You have taught me so much about…
99. Thank you for being someone I can count on.
100. You have helped me more than you know.
101. Because of you, I feel like I know myself better.
102. Thank you for being so supportive.
103. You’re so non-judgmental. You make me feel safe.
104. When I need a pick-me-up, I know I can call you.
105. You give great hugs.
106. I love how you make everyone feel special.
107. You are a true friend.
108. I really value our friendship.
109. You mean a lot to me.
110. You brighten my mood every time I’m with you.
111. I have so much fun around you.
112. I love how silly we are together!
113. Thank you for being so trustworthy.
114. You’re really encouraging of my goals and dreams. It means a lot to me.
115. You really help me see the positive in life.
116. Friends like you don’t come around often.
117. Our friendship is something I cherish.
118. You’re a positive influence on my life.
119. You are so honest and I really appreciate it.
120. I’ve learned a lot from you. Thank you!
121. You inspire me and push me to grow.

There are endless compliments that are not about appearance.

And, oftentimes, they mean the most. If you truly love someone, there will be thousands of compliments that you may be able to give them that have nothing to do with how they look.

You are absolutely gorgeous… and that’s the least interesting thing about you.

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After all, someone’s appearance is the least exciting thing about them. Focus on the non-appearance-related compliments that you can offer your loved ones.

Pay attention to the joy on their face when they hear how much you value them for who they are, rather than what they look like.

Now THAT… That is beautiful.